Anonymous asked: This question boggles my mind, so I was wondering what you think: would it be worse to live your life alone or settle for the best you can find but who really doesn't make you happy? Sometimes, I think the answer is obvious, but the more I think about it, the more I realize it's not. What do you think?
I think it would be worse to settle, if I’m completely honest.
I’m assuming that you mean “alone” in the sense of not having a significant other for romantic love and not “alone” in the sense of being a hermit, cut off from all Human interaction.
You’ll still have friends and family to be there with you and to give you (and you give them in return) platonic love.
If I remain an unmarried bachelor my entire life, I can still lead a fulfilling life. I can still have amazing friends, I can still write books, I can still go to Amsterdam (which I really want to go see one day), etc. Now, I’m not saying that I can’t do those things if I got married, I’m just saying that my life would still be good if I didn’t.
Meanwhile, settling for someone who doesn’t make you happy or even makes you sad or mad because the sex is good or because you feel like you’re lonely and you need someone to be there can only be very unhealthy for you, I would think.
I’d much rather have an intelligent, engaging partner who compliments and adds to my personality (and vice versa) or no partner at all, rather than a partner who basically amount to a talking sex toy or an abusive psycho.
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